Swinging Contact Etiquette
Important: The number 1 rule in the swinging lifestyle is that no always means NO!
Anyone can say no at anytime while swinging. If the other person or people do not stop immediately then they are committing rape and will never be allowed to any swinging events again.
As many of you are new to the swinging scene, it has been suggested that perhaps some guidance on swingers contact manners would be useful.
Please respond to all e-mails you receive from respondents.
Most of them will have spent time plucking up courage to write to you, and time thinking of the right thing to say to get you to notice them.
It does not need to be a long letter, a short note saying something along the lines of "Thank you for your response, but you do not match what I am currently looking for, better luck next time" will at least let the respondent know they have failed. I know that I for one check my mail eagerly after I send every response, hoping that someone has written back to me.
If you are an escort advertising for business please advertise only in the escort section. If you are an escort advertising for play friends please use a different e-mail address from that used for your business. If I am made aware of people being asked for payment when responding to ads outside the escort area I will delete the ad.
Always be polite.
Tell the advertiser what you like about their ad.
Tell them how you think you will meet their requirements.
If you enclose a picture show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a piece of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their ad).
Keep the language clean, match your response to the ad. Don't go straight in with a hardcore letter.
If you are turned down by an advertiser, don't keep contacting them - you are not going to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just move on to the next advertiser.
We are bound to have missed a few points, if you come up with some more, please feel free to write and tell us at [email protected]
We have been in the swinging scene for more than 40 years between us, and we have noticed that as the number of people in the scene has been increasing, so has the bad bahaviour.
Some of it is because people just do not know how to behave in the swinging lifestyle, so we have added the folling pages to our swingers sites to help explain how you should behave in the swinging lifestyle.